How Many Flowers Are Too Many Flowers?
Wednesday, May 8, 2019 - Joe Kiedinger
I rarely make statements about ‘men versus women,’ but today I’m going to make an exception. Today, I want to talk about something I’ve learned from my relationship with my wife, Danica. Perhaps, this is a male thing, but that’s for you to decide. When I have said the wrong thing or somehow upset my wife, I have occasionally been in the proverbial ‘dog house.’
To get out of said house, I would stop by the florist and make a purchase. It is here where my mind would say, ‘Hey, Joe, if you buy her a rose you’ll get 1 point, but if you buy her a dozen you will get 12 points!’ Is this just a guy thing? Buy more and get more points. However, I learned it doesn’t work that way.
The reality is whether I buy her 1 rose or a dozen, I only get 1 point. But, for every person she shares my gift with, I get another point. If she takes a picture of my gift and puts it out on social media, I get a point for every like!
What does this have to do with life? You can’t buy points from others. You can only obtain them through an apology or humility. This simple act is what sets healing in motion. When a person says, ‘I was wrong and I’m sorry,’ it goes along way.
Just make sure you only use the ‘sorry’ word when you really need it. Many people I know say they’re sorry for not answering an email or forgetting to follow through on a simple task. That is not the time or place. The word should only be used when you absolutely need a person to know you are sincerely apologetic for something you said or did.
It is a sacred word and should be saved for when you really need it. If you waste your sorrys, well, when you need them, they won’t mean very much.
ACTION PLAN: Buy your partner some flowers. You don’t need to be in the dog house… it’s just because!